Adoption: We are Starting to Match

Udall Family-60And things keep on rolling along… now that our Home Study is done and our Profile Book is printed and sent in, we are now hearing about and able to respond to possible matches. We were told last evening of a possible match in Texas. The baby is due in November and the family seems nice from all we’ve read. We’ve decided to move forward with showing our profile to them. We’re optimistically cautious at this point.

Our profile along with several others will now be shown to the family. They will then chose one family to place their child with. After they chose we will be notified if it was us or not.

This Matching Process could go on for many months with multiple families… or they could just chose us this week. It’s such an odd place to be in. I’m so anxious that they won’t pick us and yet I’m so anxious if we are chosen. If they don’t pick us it means more uncertainty: waiting, wondering, and asking where our match will be from. If they do pick us things get real: the good and the bad.

The biggest immediate practical reality for me will be knowing the actual amount we will need to pay to the agency – an amount that we are currently $6000 short of. We’re not worried too much about this – it’s actually incredible that it’s only that much short. God is so faithful! But it will mean a loan.

Bottom Line: We are trusting God with this next step. We’ve chosen to say yes our profile book can be shown yet we’re trusting God with the outcome. Please pray with us that if this TX family is supposed to be our Birth Family, that God will lead them to us. If they are not, that we would be patient. Please pray for peace in any case. I have a lot of peace tonight. I want to keep walking forward with peace. Thank you friends!

Adoption: 75% Funded, Matching Starting Soon!

Square Udall Family-55We are just trucking along! We hit the $30,000 mark in our funding last week thanks to several generous gifts from amazing friends. This means we are now 75% funded!! The actual amount we will have to pay for our adoption is different with each situation presented so we’re seeking to be prepared with $40,000 (we have seen that it can be more than this amount but more often less).

Since finishing our Home Study we have started to receive matches! These are emails that are sent to us from our agency (Adoption Choices of Colorado) with information about birth parents, medical history, substance exposure, baby due date, etc. We have to finish our Profile Book in order to respond to these. So, that’s our project for the week: Get the Profile Book done!

Once our Profile Book is done we will pray through and research each match presented to decide if we want to allow our book to be presented. Then our book will be shown to our potential Birth Mom (and Dad if he’s involved in the process) along with about four other families’ books. If chosen, we will sign a contract and pay our huge chunk of money ($35K – $45K). Then we wait for Baby to be born! The two possible matches we have seen so far had due dates of October 20 and July 29 so placement could happen quickly after we are chosen. It is also possible that it could be some time before we are chosen so we’re trying to prepare for anything.

We’re also seeking to prepare ourselves in other ways. We’ve started dreaming about nursery design and we’ve been realizing we need a few basic items – such as a car seat – just in case things go really fast. It’s becoming real! We’re also taking a four-day weekend to complete a landscaping project that we’ve been poking at for the past five years.

I am starting to allow myself to dream about holding our baby. It’s exciting and terrifying all at the same time. There’s still much to get done but not knowing how long we have to prepare makes planning tricky. Please pray for us about preparation and that we’ll be wise in allowing our Profile Book to be shown to the right Birth Mom(s) at the right time.

Thank you for being on the journey with us. We cannot adequately express how much the words of encouragement, listening ears, financial gifts, prayers, physical gifts, and shared tears have meant to us. We are thankful!

PS – If you’re considering giving toward our adoption, here’s the tax-deductible giving link: Adopt Together