After much prayer, thought, research, and conversation we are moving forward with adopting an infant from the US. This means we’re going through an agency in the US that connects us with a Birth Mother who is choosing to give life to her child and place him or her with loving Adoptive Parents. Ideally, we’ll get to meet our baby’s Birth Mother before our child is born and even be there for his or her birth.
What this means for us:
It costs an average $35,000 to complete an adoption in the US through an agency. There are legal fees, home study fees, classes, application costs, travel expenses, post-placement fees, and more. We are doing everything we can to aggressively save money and budget well, but a significant gap will remain that we are trusting God to fill.
We are busy learning everything we can about adoption. Talking with adoptive families, reading books, researching online, networking, etc. – we’re basically sponges right now. There’s a lot to learn!
There is a lot of paperwork to complete. Filling out home study paperwork, agency applications, and completing our family profile will keep us busy for months to come.
We don’t know how long it will be until we get to bring Baby Udall home. It could be a year or longer. Right now we see the waiting as a good thing. God gives Moms nine months of pregnancy for a reason! We have a lot of work to do to prepare our hearts and home for our baby.
What you can do:
Connect with Us.
We are in need of leaning into community now more than ever. We know we cannot do this alone.
We don’t expect you to know a lot of information about adoption if you’ve never had experience with it. We are really happy to answer any questions you may have about our process. We love sharing the things that we are walking through and learning.
Share Positive Adoption Stories.
Raising children is risky whether they are adopted or your biological children. We are stepping into becoming parents with eyes wide open – and faith that God is in control. If you have any resources, ideas, or positive stories of adoption, I’m all ears!
If you want to contribute financially to our adoption, you can use the link below. We’re working to raise an initial $5000 to cover Home Study and our Adoption Consultant. Once we reach $2000, we will be able to start our home study. Once that is completed (it can take up to 5 months), we will be able to apply for a tax-deductible giving organization. If you want a tax-deductible receipt, you may wish to wait to give at that time.
Most of all, we want to communicate how thankful we are for the community of supportive people in our life. It will not only take a village to raise our baby but also to make it possible to welcome him/her into our home. Thank you for your support!
Here are some other helpful resources about adoption I have come across if you’re interested.
Respectful Adoption Language. (P.S. it’s okay if you mess up!)